hard to say if you're not having a shower. People may want to wait until after the baby is born in that case, so they get something gender specific. I could see that happening.
When I had showers no one threw them for me until I was about 36-37 weeks. Which was upsetting to me with Eli, I didn't know about it and I was trying so hard to scrape together money for big stuff and I just didn't have it. I was so stressed. Surprise parties are evil So no one gave me anything until around that time, or after baby was born.
But your situation is a tad different...I hope they would by around 30 weeks. That's probably when I would do it. We're getting Eric's sister a crib but I wont order it for awhile, I'll wait til she's at least 25 weeks before I order it, and I'll have it shipped right to her house.

Heather, I really hope around 30 weeks.  Its really hard because I am trying to spread out our shopping over the next few months so we don't spend all at once, but I know its a bit early for people to be buying now.  I have a lot of friends I have sent baby things to when they were expecting, and I really don't expect it in return, but I am hopeful.

Carrie, you are too sweet!  I am having a shower, its just after sprout is here (which is not very helpful for getting the necessities) so I will be well taken care of, its just times like these where I really regret having to have moved so far away from home, Trev feels so bad when I feel like this, because he is the reason we moved away, he has a career that he just can't have back home.  I am lucky to have met great people in all of you, and have such amazing supportive co-workers, otherwise I wouldn't have survived the loneliness of moving away from home.

Most of the stuff I got from friends and customers I got at the very end and then when they came to see us in the hospital.

My mum tried to buy a high chair when I was 6 weeks pregnant.    I managed to stop her though.